How To Build Your

Learning to Love Yourself

Self-esteem is the spark to our flame. The gas to our car. If it’s low, we barely go. The good news is, like gas it is able to be refilled. Today we share advice on how to build your self-esteem.

How to build self-esteem

While there have been studies that show self-esteem and optimism to be genetic, there are no studies showing this can not be changed. In fact, many people have shared that they didn’t always have low self-esteem. They were impacted in some way that changed them. While this is saddening, it also tells us the reverse can be true. If you can lose your self-esteem, you can also gain it.

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The key point in learning how to build self-esteem is to remember that it is our value and confidence of our selves. This makes our mission seem more obtainable. Remove the idea that you are trying to change who you are and replace it with you are changing how you view who you are. So how do we change how we view ourselves?

How To Change How We View Ourselves

Do Esteemable things

Do things that make you feel good about yourself. Help others. Set and achieve obtainable goals.

Set Boundaries

You won’t respect you if you allow others not to. Stop letting others take advantage or mistreat you.

Learn to say yes/no

If you are missing out on opportunities because of fear, practice saying yes to things that are making you uncomfortable. If you have let other people or things get in the way of your happiness, start telling them no.

Surround yourself with people that lift you up

We are already struggling with low self-esteem. We don’t need friends that make this harder for us. Instead, find people that encourage you to be better and lift you up when your feeling down.

Reward yourself

A positive reinforcement is a reward that encourages us to continue doing what were doing. By rewarding ourselves, we are not only encouraging our growth but making it enjoyable for us to continue doing the work.

Forgive Yourself

Forgive Yourself

Remember, when learning how to build your self-esteem to be kind to yourself. You are changing a perspective that you have had for a long time. It is an adjustment and you might not always get it right. Forgive yourself for the mistakes you have made and the ones you will in the future. We are working to life ourselves up, not tear ourselves apart when we fall short

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