Relationships
how to Beat
Sexual Performance Anxiety
Without Medication
Therapist Advice: Sexual Performance Anxiety
Sexual performance anxiety, like all performance anxiety can be reduced with proper understanding and technique. Understanding yourself, partner, and experience are important in such. The best way to beat sexual performance anxiety without medication is to build your self-confidence, focus on your partner, and be present. Here are a few suggestions on how to do just that.
Build Your Self Confidence
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While it strangely is one of the most disliked tips, one of the best ways to beat sexual performance anxiety without medication is to build your self-confidence. Anxiety and confidence our enemies. If you strengthen one, you weaken the other.
- Practice Makes Perfect
There is a reason why this saying is so popular. While no one is perfect, regular practice helps us learn more about ourselves and get better. Remember you are learning. Discuss this with your partner, build confidence, and have fun at the same time.
- Encourage Yourself
Become your own cheer leader. Positive support goes a long way and encouraging yourself builds self-esteem. While staying in the moment, root yourself on and compliment yourself.
- Forgive Yourself
Your not going to conquer this in a day, so forgive yourself to have a better attempt tomorrow. Being hard on ourselves increases our anxiety the next time around. Forgive yourself and give yourself permission to continue trying and getting better.
Focus On Your Partner
A part of the anxiety you are experiencing is coming from worrying about your performance. Coincidentally, this turns into anxiety that gets in the way of performance and gives us more to worry about. One way to beat this viscous cycle of sexual performance anxiety without medication is stop thinking about our performance and start thinking about our partners.
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- Worry Less About You And More About Them
Rather than thinking about how you are doing, look at your partner. Ask them what they’d prefer and place your attention on them. Whenever a thought about yourself arises, quickly begin focusing on them.
- Look For Support
Get your partner involved. Tell them you are looking for cues for what they enjoy and ask them to encourage you when you are following them.
- Know Your Partner Is Self Conscious Too
You are not alone. Everyone is constantly thinking about themselves. Remember this and be different. Tell your partner things to put them at ease and in return make yourself feel better in the process.
Be Present
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If you want to learn how to breakup with someone nicely, you have to learn to be compassionate. Being compassionate is something we all recognize but view consciously practice.
- Respect The Moment
Intimacy is more than the release of sexual tension. It is a shared moment in time within a deep expression of love. Rather than think of yourself, give this moment the respect it deserves and be one with the experience.
- Be One With Your Partner
Remove the thought of yourself. Pretend you do not exist. Increase the intimacy of the moment and decrease your anxiety, by becoming one and moving in unison with your partner.
- Value The Moment
When we value an experience over our ego’s, we put more energy into this effort and less into our internal struggles. These are the steps to learning how to beat sexual performance anxiety without medication.
Important Tips To Remember
- Practice Makes Perfect
- Forgive Yourself
- Be One With Your Partner
- Value The Moment
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