How To Deal With A Narcissistic Parent

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How To Deal With A Narcissistic Parent

Therapist Advice: Understanding and Dealing With A Narcissist

Thankfully, awareness of narcissistic behaviors has become more popular. This has helped many with dating and relationships. Unfortunately, knowing how to deal with a narcissistic parent is not as commonly known. Read along as we seek to change that.

Narcissism within the family can be difficult to deal with. Narcissism works best when others are unwilling or unaware on how to challenge it. The best way to deal with a narcissistic parent is to understand what they suffer from, know how it impacts you, and prioritize yourself over them. Here are a few suggestions on how to do just that.

Understanding What They Suffer From

It may seem like dealing with a narcissistic parent is impossible. With a proper understanding however, dealing with them becomes much more manageable. A narcissistic parent, like all narcissist suffer from a disorder where they believe the world revolves around them and anyone who disagrees with them is delusional.

Lack Of Empathy

One of the key defining characteristics of a narcissist is their inability to feel empathetic. They really lack the ability to feel how you feel. For this reason, they can’t truly understand where you are coming from. It is a disorder and a sad one at that.

They Are The Gift And You Are Just The Occasion

Narcissist view themselves as a gift. You are blessed to have them near you and you are just a tool for them to use. Anything that contradicts this belief does not make sense to a narcissist. It is easier for them to believe everyone else is crazy before they can can accept that their belief could be wrong.

Incurable But Manageable

If you have a narcissistic parent, know that they will be a narcissist for life. With therapy they can become aware of their behavior and get better but it will never go away. Loving a narcissist can be a difficult life long commitment.

Know How It Impacts You

You’ve undoubtedly learned some traits about the person you are now breaking up with. Use this knowledge to find the perfect ways to let them down. Also use this knowledge to find the perfect ways to lift them back up. Knowing someone will naturally reveal how to breakup with someone.

Doubting Reality

Although a narcissistic parent believes they’re always correct, the way they see reality is not. In order for you to see things their way, they need to manipulate you. This can cause you to doubt reality and begin to incorrectly see the world through their eyes.

Frustration

Although knowing they have a disorder can keep you from becoming manipulated, it is only half the battle. Being constantly challenged by them and attempting to explain to them can be both frustrating and exhausting. This also has the ability to turn into other mental health symptoms in you such as depression.

Low Self-Esteem

Being constantly put down, told you are incorrect, and being left to feel inferior takes a toll on your self-esteem. In time, you may begin to think they are correct and despite all you do will be unable to ever be right in their eyes.

Prioritize yourself over them

If you want to learn how to breakup with someone nicely, you have to learn to be compassionate. Being compassionate is something we all recognize but view consciously practice.

Avoid Manipulation

A narcissist needs to manipulate you to get what they want and have you see things through their eyes. Avoid manipulation by challenging their words and being yourself.

Respect Your Feelings

You’ve spent years developing your gut and intuition. Don’t allow a narcissistic parent to take that away from you. Question them and their comments. Respect your feelings by trusting yourself.

Set And Follow Through With Boundaries

By now you should have a better understanding of your narcissistic parent. Set some rules and boundaries for behaviors and comments that you will no longer allow. When they break them, tell yourself and them that you are no longer allowing yourself to be treated this way. This may make them angry, but your happiness matters too!

Important Tips To Remember

What They Suffer From Is Incurable
They Way They See The World Is Incorrect
Don’t Allow Yourself To Be Manipulated
Set and Follow Through With Your Boundaries

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3 Tips For Raising Mixed Race Kids

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3 Tips For Raising Mixed Race Kids

Therapist Advice: Raising Confident Mixed Race Children

This article discusses the challenges that mixed race kids face while also providing a solution. This article was written by a therapist with mixed race children in an attempt to raise awareness and build confidence in mixed race children.

Photography By: Polina Kuzovkova

During their developmental stages, children are confronted with various issues that effect them into adulthood. Mixed race kids are no different but also have separate issues that other children may not face in the same way. With proper advice and encouragement, mixed race kids can be given the tools to create confident and capable adults. The 3 best tips for raising mixed race kids is to teach him how to celebrate themselves, develop their identity, and overcome prejudice. This article will go into detail on how to do just that.

Celebrating Mixed Race Kids

Photography By: Polina Kuzovkova

When’s the last time you were celebrated? Did it make it you feel nice or recognized? This is something that many mixed race kids need. Being celebrated combats the common thought they have that their being different is bad or weird.

Seeing The Beauty In Themselves

While many see mixed race kids as beautiful, we are much tougher on ourselves. Your child may not see this and struggle with being different. Help them see what we see, how beautiful they actually are.

Seeing The Beauty In Diversity

When you seeing something different point out to your child on how that makes it unique and special. Teach them that there is no normal, just different people making different people. Help them to see how exciting and colorful this makes communities and families.

Celebrating The Best Of Both Worlds

Teach your child that every race and culture is beautiful in their own way. Teach them to see how they are the product of two beautiful things coming together to create something beautiful.

Identity Issues of Mixed Race Kids

Discovering who you are and deciding who you want to become is a major part of building or own personal foundation. Mixed race kids may struggle with this as they may look different from others. Here are a few ways to encourage them on this journey of self-discovery.

Photography By: Polina Kuzovkova

Struggle With Not Seeing Others Like Them

If your child does not see others like them they may feel alone or like an outcast. Help them to see that everyone is different in their own way. Explore areas or watch films where they can see their features in others too.

Finding A Sense Of Belonging In Multiple Cultures

Your child may feel that they have to pick a culture or side they feel closer too. Help them to see that they don’t need to choose because they belong to both despite looking different.

Encourage Them To Be Themselves

Help your child to see that not only is it ok to be yourself but that it is freeing as well. While culture is beautiful, being who you want to be and not who you think others want you to be is empowering.

Prejudice Towards Mixed Race Kids

Photography By: Polina Kuzovkova

Help your child to see prejudice for what it is, fear based ignorance. Some mixed race kids may see prejudice as proof that something is wrong with them. Here are a few ways to educate them on how prejudice actually reveals what is wrong with others.

Teach About Envy and Jealousy

Help your child to realize that people are self-centered. They may not like you because you have a trait that they wish they had. They may not be happy or feel confident in themselves. They may think others will like you more than them.

Teach About Fear

Teach your child that many people are afraid of things changing or being different. Help them to see that this is an irrational or silly fear to have. Help them to see to that many people are prejudice because they are afraid of things they don’t know.

Teach About Ignorance

Help your child to realize that many prejudice people aren’t bad people, they were just taught poorly. They may have not been raised in a diverse area. They may have had or heard of someone having a bad experience with someone different and now think all different people are the same.

Important Tips To Remember

See the beauty in diversity
Find belonging in multiple cultures
Be yourself
Know prejudice is just fear and ignorance

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