• Grounding Techniques

         Grounding techniques are ways to get yourself centered, present, and away from the thoughts that are bothering you. While used commonly with anxiety, they work well when you can’t stop thinking about someone too. When you begin thinking about that someone, start focusing on the things around you. What do you hear, see, or smell? Do you have something tasty you can taste? What materials around you can you feel. It is impossible to think about two things at once, grounding let’s us think about what we choose.

• Remember The Bad

       Nostalgia will have you believe that everything was perfect then. Although, no one is perfect. Thinking about the bad traits, characteristics, and things we did not like about her ex can aide us in learning how to get over a breakup. When we start fantasying or obsessing about our ex, thinking of these things will encourage us to move in the other direction.

• Focus On Yourself

         The truth is that these thoughts are telling you more about yourself than them. For this reason, it is important we think about ourselves to move forward. This is a time where we may be being hard on ourselves. Commit to focusing on your good qualities and goals to increase yourself esteem. This will empower you. When you being thinking about your ex, quickly remind yourself that this means you need to focus on yourself and think about these positive things.